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Dealing with guys cracking onto the girl you like
Seeing another guy crack onto the girl you like can be one of the most heart-wrenching things you can experience. Here's some tips to help deal with the situation:
What are her feelings for you?
First consider what the feelings are that she has for you. If you're not in a relationship with her, as much as it hurts, remember that she's not committed to you and she's free to do what she wants. If you're not in a relationship, hope that she'll realise that you are the better guy and that if she makes the right choice, she'll choose to be with you.
Is she just innocently having fun
There's no reason why she can't have fun with other guys. Girls might come across as being "interested" in a guy they're talking to but in reality they mightn't have any feelings for him whatsoever and are just enjoying themselves without there being anything else to it. At the same time, it's also possible for her feelings to change towards the guy at any time.
Is she worth it?
If you're feeling hurt by what's happening, it's more than likely that you're a great guy who really cares about the girl. It's likely that the guy who's cracking onto the girl you like is quite the opposite in character. Think about whether it's even worth pursuing the girl. If she takes an interest in the other guy, maybe she doesn't deserve you in the first place. At the same time she could just be enjoying the feeling of being chased after by other guys - it's natural - in the same way that you as a guy you probably feel good when other girls flirt with you even if you aren't interested in them.
The risks of going in for the attack
If you take the matter into your own hands and go barging in, there's a risk of losing her by coming across as being controlling - it's a turn of and it doesn't look hot at all. It's often best just to wait and let things pan out. Quite often it'll just be a short thing and the guy will soon move on - particularly if she isn't interested.
